11 Ways To Live a Long and Happy Life


happy, healthy lifestyle, happiness, positive, age gracefully, gaining,According to recent studies, happiness increases longevity. Many old wise beings confirm that having a positive attitude is a secret to feeling good, dealing with illness and keeping themselves active. Here are my own 11 suggestions that will help keep you young by increasing the amount of happiness you feel.

1. Have good communication; don’t argue 

When you need to speak up about an issue that’s bothering you, adhere to Attitude Reconstruction’s Four Rules of Good Communication: (1) Speak in “I’s” – that is, talk about how you feel, rather than blaming others; (2) Be specific, and don’t over-generalize with “always” or “never”; (3) Focus on kindness, not negativity; (4) Truly listen to the other individual. With practice, you will reap undeniable benefits.

2. Ditch your negative thinking

Giving appreciation, praising, and expressing gratitude spreads good vibes. When you’re thinking of saying something negative, look for what you like, and focus on that. Studies show that gratitude actually increases psychological and physical well-being.

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3. Abide by the three Ultimate Attitudes

Each time you align your thoughts, words, and deeds with one or more of the following three attitudes, the result will be a shot of joy, love, and peace: (1) Honor and love yourself; (2) Accept other people and situations; and (3) Stay present and specific.

4. Handle emotions physically and constructively

When you feel victimized or sad, just allow yourself to cry; you’ll feel better and have more room to experience joy. Don’t think or speak poorly of others when you feel angry. Instead, move out the emotional energy by hitting, stomping, pushing or yelling – in a safe place, of course. When you are gripped by anxiety, worry, insomnia or panic, make yourself shiver, quiver, tremble and shudder. It seems silly but it really works.

5. Accept – don’t fight – what is

Accept that “people and situations are the way they are, not the way I want them to be,” and then take the appropriate action. After accepting what is, you can look within for direction about what’s true for you about the specific situation. Now you will be able to speak up and take action with confidence.

happiness, longevity, healthy lifestyle, aging gracefully, 6. Take time off

Doing nothing gives you a break from all the activity and distractions, and lets your body and mind integrate your experiences. Taking time for your brain to rest contributes to happiness. Maybe that means a solo hike or walk on the beach, maybe meditation, maybe nothing but vegging out and taking a nap.

7. Move your body

Walking is good. Exercise is good. Team sports are good. Too much sitting or sleeping is not great for our bodies, muscles, organs, bones, and minds. Moving the body on a regular basis is what we humans were built to do. That means not just moving from the bed to the kitchen table to the computer. Research shows that sitting is the new smoking when it comes to decreasing life expectancy.

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8. Laugh often

Researchers are finding that laughing releases stress, lifts our spirits and connects us with other people. We have a choice. We can laugh, we can cry, or we can be blasé and bored about the rich surprises life presents.

9. Volunteer

Helping others or getting involved in some cause outside yourself is good for your heart and connects you to your world. Contributing to a group that holds similar values is an excellent way to step outside of your own life, issues, and preoccupations. Selfless giving is a guaranteed way to increase feelings of love.

10. Create a bucket list

Start doing some of the things you’ve always wanted to do, and start now. We never know what tomorrow will bring, so it makes sense to treat ourselves well now because when we die, our bucket list also expires. Of course, that means being financially responsible so you can continue to travel, take courses, learn a new skill/hobby or follow your dreams.

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11. Just get over it! 

Life’s too short to live in the past. If you want to enjoy the present and future and live a nice long life, let go of all your regrets, what ifs and spotty history – the injustices, violations, and hurts. As Don Henley so succinctly sings, “Get over it.”

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By Jude Bijou, MA, MFT